Loosed to Forgive Others

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Ohhhhh how I needed these lessons today.  My lovely soon-to-be ex husband was supposed to meet me at the marriage counselor’s office today so that we could go over the terms of the divorce.  He did another no-call no-show.  Then had the nerve to email me: “I don’t want to drag it out because the longer it takes the more I want you back.”  I almost lost my lunch when I read that.  Seriously?  If this is how he shows that he wants me back, I’d hate to see what not wanting me back is like.  Basically, I need to find a way to forgive the man who is putting me through this for my own sanity.  What?  How does one do that?

[Okay, this is the cool part.  Well, I find it cool.  If you hover your mouse over the Scriptural references, you will get a small pop up (friendly, I promise!) that gives you the text from the Scripture!  Simply click anywhere on the white space of the box to get rid of it and move to the next.  If you don’t find that cool, I really don’t have any other tricks for you today.  Try tomorrow : ) ]  If you have been following my blog in sequential order or one after another in this fasting series, you’re probably wondering why I keep this part in.  It’s merely for those who start in random spots and may not know.  Quite nice of me, right?

  • Matthew 6:14, 15Matthew 6:14, 15
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    14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.  

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  • Matthew 18:21-35Matthew 18:21-35
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    21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? 22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. 23 Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. 24 And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. talents: a talent is ounces of silver, at a hundred and eleven cents the ounce 25 But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26 The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. worshipped him: or, besought him 27 Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. 28 But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. pence: the Roman penny is the eighth part of an ounce, which after five shillings the ounce is seven pence halfpenny; about fourteen cents 29 And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. 30 And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. 31 So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. 32 Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: 33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? 34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. 35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.  

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  • Mark 11:25, 26Mark 11:25, 26
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    25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. 26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.  

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  • Luke 6:37Luke 6:37
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    37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:  

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  • Luke 17:3, 4Luke 17:3, 4
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    3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. 4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.  

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  • Ephesians 4:31, 32Ephesians 4:31, 32
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    31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.  

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  • Colossians 3:12, 13Colossians 3:12, 13
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    12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. quarrel: or, complaint  

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I hate this part.  I hate that it is a Biblical requirement that I forgive someone who not only HAS wronged me but CONTINUES to wrong me.  I understand the concept, it’s just not my favorite part.  But, I have also lived with bitterness against my immediate family members for the same reason.  I learned that not forgiving and moving forward causes long-term damage that it is very hard to recover from.  So I have started praying for my soon-to-be ex husband, every night.  I pray for his soul.  I pray that God will open his heart so that he can hear God’s message.  This just solidifies the fact that I have to keep doing it.

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