So often, circumstances place us in positions that encourage us to think differently about ourselves. If we think differently about ourselves and we are filled with positivity in regards to growth and change — then this is a good thing. However, there are far too many times where we find ourselves allowing our negative core beliefs to dictate our attitudes, moods, and response to life.
Core beliefs are basically absolute statements about oneself that are treated as absolute facts. As any good therapist would tell you, it is essential that you challenge the negative core beliefs because they can lead to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, etc. Some examples of negative core beliefs are:
- I am unlovable
- I am worthless
- Nothing ever works for me
Combating Negative Core Beliefs
Obviously, finding proof that these negative beliefs one holds about oneself are not 100% true is one way of combating negative core beliefs. Identifying self-truths are another good way. Self-truths are exactly what they sound like! Truths about yourself. So you can take a negative core belief such as “nothing ever works for me” and review your personal experiences to identify if you truly have had the experience of having absolutely nothing ever work for you. Self-truths reveal positive things about our experiences that we would otherwise discount.
Sometimes we transfer other people’s personal opinions about our traits and make them into core beliefs. How many times have you been told that you were damaged, useless, worthless, and other negative things? There are times when you are told that you are something so many times that you take on that identity and make it into a negative core belief.
Build Your Own Self-Worth Through Self Truths
When you have a negative balance in your self-worth bank, it deteriorates your entire emotional well-being. Negative balances are easy to accumulate while positive balances are hard to obtain and even harder to keep. When you develop and enhance actual self-truths, you are actually building positive balances in your self-worth bank.
- Reduce the negative effects of negative core beliefs by eliminating absolutes from your vocabulary (always, never, etc.)
- Take every opportunity to remind yourself of your positive contributions in your own life (education, employment, personal accomplishments)
- Review evidence that appears to support your negative image of yourself overly critically (always demand three times the proof of a negative image versus one piece of evidence for proof of a positive image)
- If you can’t find positive self-truths about yourself — create them or have friends and family help you!
It is important that you take daily inventory of the balances that reside in your self-worth bank. Do not allow negativity to take up residence in your life when it contributes nothing to enhance the quality of your life. The path to enlightenment can be a long and arduous one but it does not have to be utterly impossible!